So This Lawyer Walks into Parenthood....

Newsflash: divorce sucks. It's complicated emotionally and financially. And until I found my amazing and incredible lawyer I felt adrift and incapable of navigating the tricky waters of ending my marriage. And then I met with Beth for one hour and became a sea of calm. She made me feel supported, enoucouraged, taken care of, heard. Mike and I are committed to preserving amicability and the collaborative process, and Beth is not only supportive of those goals, but her leadership has been invaluable.

And I had the extreme pleasure of meeting her daughter for a photo session recently. And that girl has implanted herself in my soul. Meet Lucy....

Technically Lucy has "issues" of varying shapes and sizes. Which is really schools and doctors way of labeling kids who don't fit the mold we'll call "normal". What Lucy makes SO OBVIOUS is that some people just have too big of a personality for childhood and little bodies and learning things that seem unimportant to vibrant, intuitive, empathic, thoughtful souls.


Lucy had questions for me, lots of them. And honestly I haven't had a grown up take such interest in me in a long time, much less a child. She was data gathering, putting details to the gut sense she had of me. It was a visceral chemical exchange.


Lucy has made up her own language for some things. And she just operates differently. It's spiritual and kinesthetic and incredibly intense. I imagine her mind like a pointillism masterpiece. It seems scattered and disconnected at first glance but eventually her logic is revealed and the beauty emerges.

And she's enduring the rigors of childhood as best she can. It all seems too constricting for her if you ask me. She has this enormous spirit - and routines and rules and worksheets and conventions quite frankly seem ridiculous given all she seems capable of thinking and feeling.





And I'm fairly certain she is not what her parents were expecting.


And there are a hundred and one ways to handle the difference between expectation and reality. And the path they have chosen is to really SEE her. And let her be who she is. And love her with such compassion and acceptance and delight. And the connection they share is profound and comforting and inspiring. There are so many mysteries in life, why things go the way they go. Why some people come into your life, why others leave. One thing that is absolutely clear to me is that Lucy landed in just the right spot.